How Can I Help A Parent, Friend or Loved One
No one ever wants to think about growing older. When you believe that someone you know and love needs a little extra help, it can be difficult to even know what you need to know. We’re here to help you with this guide, which we hope will help you understand and identify what you need for your parents.
They Need A Little Help, But Aren’t Willing to Move
Leaving home behind isn’t easy for anyone — especially when it’s the family home. We all have fond memories of the homes where we grew up, where we raised our families, where we’ve lived happily for many years. It doesn’t grow easier as we grow older.
If they’re having difficulty keeping up at home, or they have grown isolated or are living alone, then maintenance-free living isn’t the only benefit of choosing to live in a retirement community. Learn more about senior living options
Residents who choose a Westminster community enjoy an exciting and active lifestyle every day, with ample opportunities to enjoy time with friends; all home maintenance, inside and out; delicious and nutritious dining options; scheduled transportation for shopping, doctors’ appointments, religious services and more; plus security, housekeeping services and more. Learn more about Westminster Communities of Florida’s active living communities
There are also options for older adults to remain at home and get the support they need. For example, home care may be an option, which includes home visits by a trusted, screened aide. They can provide a little support with routine tasks around the home, whether it’s meal preparation or an escort for shopping or physician visits. If a little more support is needed, in Pinellas and Manatee counties, home health aides may be available to provide basic supportive services. Learn more about Westminster Home CareClose
I Think They Need A Little Support
Sometimes, it’s the little things that cause us to realize that our parent, grandparent, neighbor or friend needs a little more support. You may have noticed that Mom is forgetting to take her prescriptions, or that Uncle Joe used to have an easy time getting around but now he never seems to leave the house. Some of these are natural parts of the aging process, and others may be cause for concern.
There are a few key areas when it may be time to have a discussion about getting more support:
- Changes in behavior, like not eating healthy meals regularly or abrupt changes in routine
- Having difficulty with basic tasks, like not changing clothes or getting up and moving around
- Forgetfulness about prescriptions or simple activities
If you notice these things, we can help. Click here to contact us for more information about assisted living, memory care and nursing careClose
What To Do If Driving Has Become An Issue
Driving is often a very sensitive subject: From the moment we get our driver’s license, the day we buy our first car, driving is the symbol of independence for most Americans. When driving is a concern, it’s important to keep in mind that driving isn’t about a specific age — it’s about safety. According to the AARP, "Although there are natural changes that may occur in our brains and to our bodies as we age, the question of when it is time to limit or stop driving is not about age. It's about the ability of the driver."
The AARP lists a few criteria that you should be aware of, as warning signs that you should discuss driving with your parent, friend or loved one:
- Delayed response to unexpected situations
- Becoming easily distracted while driving
- Decrease in confidence while driving
- Having difficulty moving into or maintaining the correct lane of traffic
- Hitting curbs when making right turns or backing up
- Getting scrapes or dents on car, garage or mailbox
- Having frequent close calls
- Driving too fast or too slow for road conditions
When you see these issues, it may be time to have that discussion. Residents at a Westminster community enjoy scheduled transportation to both important errands, like grocery store, physicians’ offices, etc., and opportunities for social engagement like church, theater and music performances and sporting events. Learn more about active living at a Westminster community
For help in how you can have a positive and respectful discussion about driving with an older adult, the MIT AgeLab and AARP have a webinar that is very helpful in understanding how to broach the topic and come to an effective resolution: Click here for We Need To TalkClose
What Are the Options to Pay for Senior Living Services? What about Medicare, Medicaid, Veterans Affairs, Etc.?
This question is on the mind of a lot of people we speak with. You should know that there’s not necessarily one answer! It will depend on the circumstances and finances of your parent, friend or loved one, and on your family’s.
You might find that a Westminster community is a great value. To learn more, try our Cost of Living Calculator
Long-Term Care Insurance: If your parent, friend or loved one has a Long-Term Care insurance plan, then depending on the plan, it may pay for assisted living, nursing care or home care services. Be sure to review the policy carefully before selecting a provider. Many Westminster Communities of Florida residents have Long-Term Care Insurance, and they use it to pay for covered services to help reduce their costs in their later years.
Medicare: When a Medicare recipient receives medical services, Medicare may pay, subject to usual insurance deductible and co-pay rules, based on Medicare or Medicare Advantage, if applicable. This includes both inpatient stays in a nursing home, like the Health Center at a Westminster community, or outpatient therapy services through the Therapy Department. So if Dad has surgery, Medicare will generally pay for nursing care or therapy services, too.
Medicaid: For low-income older adults or those who have outlived their resources, Medicaid is a state-operated healthcare program that may for nursing care or assisted living services. In order to access Medicaid benefits, there are a variety of income and asset rules that apply. In these situations, you should consult with someone who specializes in how to apply for Medicaid. Our social services department may be able to help you.
Veterans Affairs Aid & Attendance Benefits: This program is available to recipients of a Veterans Affairs pension and their survivors. In these situations, a benefit may be available to pay for assisted living or nursing care services. Learn more about the VA Aid & Attendance program at the Veterans Affairs Web site
Church Workers’ Pensions: As a faith-based, not-for-profit organization, Westminster Communities of Florida cherishes our historic ties to the Presbyterian Church as well as our services to ministers, missionaries, priests and professional church workers many other denominations. In addition to our special program for those who served the church in a paid capacity, our Honorable Service Grant program, many denominations have a pension program available to their former employees.Close
Resources to Help
When you don’t know what you need to know, there are a variety of resources available to you. Keep in mind, you can always contact us or call us at (800) 948-1881 and we’ll do our best to help!
- AARP’s Family Caregiving Guide
- LeadingAge’s Consumer Guide
- Florida Department of Elder Affairs Consumer Resource Guide